I get to travel a lot for work (well, up until this year!), and people always want to know where my favorite place is to visit. I loathe this question because it can change with any given day. Some days I would love nothing more than to be on a beach listening to the waves while I devour a book, other days I can’t wait to return to the Alps and visit all the picturesque mountain villages, and other days I just want to go to Disney. My favorite destinations may change, but one thing remains consistent. I want to travel, I need to explore the world, learn from her people – simply GO! It is just a part of who I am.
Another question I despise is “what if your future husband doesn’t like to travel?”
I often get asked this by well meaning individuals. People who are so excited for me to get married one day and experience the joys of doing life with another person. This question always makes me need to pause and bite down a sarcastic remark (usually along the lines of “well, then he probably won’t be my husband” or “then he’ll just have to stay home”).
Instead I want to ask those people why I should form my identity around someone who may not exist.
You see, God never promises marriage. Now, don’t get me wrong, marriage is wonderful. I’m so lucky to be surrounded by strong marriages in my life that show me how good that can be. But it should never be our life’s goal or sole purpose. I’ve met too many wonderful single individuals who feel like their life is on hold until they meet and marry their future spouse.
How many good years have we wasted, how many opportunities have we missed, how many blessings have we ignored because we’ve been waiting for that chapter of life to start?
God never promises marriage, but He does promise to complete us.
My life verse is Philippians 1:6 which says:
“Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” (NIV)
God doesn’t say only once you’re married will He use you to do His will. He says as soon as we give our lives to Christ and He begins that good work in us, we are His to use and mold until He brings us home.
How awesome is that?
So next time you catch yourself waiting until you get married to take a trip, or pursue a job, take up a hobby, or listen to God’s calling on your life. Remember, God is already working on you, using you and completing you – As is, no assembly required.