Dear Single Friend,
I wanted to offer you some encouragement today. See, I know that you didn’t go to that party last week because you didn’t have anyone to go with you. I also know that you came up with an excuse to miss you co-worker’s wedding because you didn’t have a date. I even know how many Friday nights you’ve spent sitting alone at home with just the television for company.
I know because I’ve been there.
I’ve experienced each one of these scenarios. They are just some of the lonely moments that can make single life feel so difficult.
It’s also why we often feel like we’re waiting- waiting for the fun to begin, for a man to sweep us off our feet, for financial security, for the next step that will finally get our life’s momentum rolling. It’s easy to fall into the trap of waiting when you’re alone.
Just waiting for… something better to come along.
I wholeheartedly believe that we should stop waiting for our lives to begin, for the Prince Charming that may never show up.
However, today I want to flip the tables and tell you, “Sometimes, it’s okay to wait.”
Stop waiting for a man and start waiting for God.
I hate waiting. I’m sure most of us do. It’s frustrating to feel like you’re spinning your wheels and nothing’s happening. We want to jump up and do something, right? It’s in all of us. Waiting is never easy.
Since I hate waiting so much, I have to fight the temptation to take matters into my own hands. After all, how many times have we heard phrases like, “God helps those that help themselves” or “It’s up to you to make it happen.”
Yeah, that’s not in the Bible.
Because of the “can-do” spirit instilled in us these days, we run ahead of God, trying to fix things so they work out the way we want them too. Maybe you’ve tried every online dating site available. You might church-hop, looking for the one with the best singles group. Or you find yourself compromising- dating a guy you know isn’t right for you. Personally, I fight with a deeply-rooted belief that I’m single because I’m unattractive. I keep thinking that if I were prettier then maybe, maybe, a guy would notice me. So I experiment with make-up, try to exercise more, and wear big jewelry to distract from my face.
Please don’t get me wrong- make-up, exercise, or online dating certainly aren’t wrong in their proper place. But when they become symbols of control in our lives, when we start trusting in them rather than in God, and when they start taking over big chunks of our time or money, then there’s a problem.
The Bible tells us that God can do abundantly more than we can ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). What would my single life look like if I spent more time being still, waiting for God, and less time online hunting for potential soulmates? If God can do more than I can even think of, then I can trust Him with my life, right?
I can trust Him to bring me a guy who loves me even if I’m not pretty.
I can trust Him to take care of me even if I stay single my whole life.
I can trust Him enough to wait while He works in my life.
In Exodus 14 we find the Israelites trapped between the Red Sea and a terribly angry Egyptian army. Despite just witnessing God’s miraculous plagues, the Israelites immediately began to panic. In fact, they “feared greatly” and began to demand why Moses led them out of Egypt just to die. They even went so far as to say they were better off as slaves.
Moses trusted in the power of his God, however. He didn’t fear greatly or try to take matters into his own hands. He didn’t encourage the Israelites to take up arms and get ready to fight. Instead, he drew their attention back to God.
“And Moses said to the people, ‘Fear not, stand firm, and see the salvation of the Lord which He will work for you today…. For the Lord will fight for you, and you need only to be still.’” -Exodus 14:13, 14
God did fight for them. He miraculously parted the Red Sea and the Israelites, through no power of their own, crossed safely.
God will fight for you, too. You only need to be still and wait.
Four verses to help you wait.
- I believe that I shall look upon the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord, be strong, and let your heart take courage. Wait for the Lord– Psalm 27:13, 14
- But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. – Isaiah 40:31
- For God alone, O my soul, wait in silence, for my hope is from Him. He only is my Rock and my Salvation, my Fortress; I shall not be shaken. On God rests my salvation and my glory; my mighty rock, my refuge is God. Trust in Him at all times, O people; pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us. – Psalm 62:5-8
- O Lord, be gracious to us; we wait for you. Be our arm every morning, our salvation in the time of trouble. –Isaiah 33:2
These verses reassure us that God is working constantly in our lives.
Waiting for a man? That’s not for you!
But waiting patiently for the God who loves you? Yes! That’s for all women who desire personal growth and a deeper relationship with God. The best part is, if you hold on to these verses and believe the truths in them, you’ll start to see the subtle beauty of God working through you and for you.
So subtle you might miss God while you’re running around trying to take control on your own.
Be still. And be encouraged.
This week I’m thankful for the blessings that come through waiting. It’s not easy, but the rewards are great. Together, let’s celebrate every SINGLE blessing!