Do you know God loves you? I mean, do you really know? Do you believe it, deep down inside? The Bible tells us God loves us, so it has to be true; living life in the full confidence of that truth is another matter.
For a long time, I struggled with feeling like God only blessed married women with children. Single women were somehow passed over or forgotten. And when you hear comments like, “God’s waiting for you to develop more faith,” well, that just makes it even worse.
Earlier this year I realized that I doubted the truth of God’s love. In my mind, God was clearly withholding blessings in all life departments- He couldn’t possibly love me as much as He loved other women.
You know- married women, with 2.5 children, a nice house, and a fluffy dog.
This realization marked the start of a hard-fought battle. The lockdown and quiet hours of solitude actually proved to be a blessing to me, because they provided time to think, to work out what I really believed to be true about God.
Through the dreary days of late winter, through isolated hikes in the woods, through long summer afternoons by the lake, I fought through my doubts. I read my Bible, prayed, and listened to Christian podcasts, trying to fill my mind with as much Christian teaching as possible.
There were times when I would just sit and tell myself, “God loves you, God loves you” over and over until I finally started to believe it.
Here’s what I can say with confidence now:
Singleness does not mean God loves me less.
My life is still blessed; the blessings just look different from most other women’s.
If that’s true for me, then it’s true for you, too!
A wise friend of mine recently wrote a great Facebook post about God’s love for women in general and her specifically. It resonated with me, so I wanted to share it with you:
“I spend a lot of time alone. Since I live by myself and work from home this is hardly surprising, but sometimes it’s easy to conflate being physically alone with being invisible to God. (Please don’t read this as a reason for pity! God has blessed my life in so many ways, and His plan is perfect even in my singleness. I am content in that.)
Satan loves to take aspects of our lives and twist them to make it seem as though God doesn’t care. He did that with Eve in the garden, and he hasn’t stopped since then. But it’s always a lie.
Today’s reading in 2 Kings 8 was a much needed reminder that God cares for us, and His care is individual and intentional. I’m sure you all remember the woman who ministered to Elisha, and how he in return saved the life of her son. But then there’s the rest of the story. Elisha warned her that a lengthy famine was coming, so she and her family left the country.
At the end of seven years, she came back and went to ask the king for her house and fields back. Now I have a hunch that King Jehoram – described as doing evil in the sight of the Lord – was not accustomed to generosity toward women. Women were second-class citizens, and he was not a good guy. But God arranged it so that she arrived just as Gehazi was telling the king all about the miracle with her son. And in his amazement, the king not only returned the house and field, he threw in seven years’ worth of produce from her field.
God didn’t have to do anything more for this faithful woman. After all, he’d already rewarded her ministry to Elisha by returning her son to life! But His care for her was constant and designed to meet her exact needs. He kept her from suffering the famine, and He restored all she needed and then some.
I am so thankful to know that the same God who watched over this woman watches over me. I’m never truly alone. And He loves you too! Trust Him, because he is worthy of our trust.”
Her thoughts perfectly sum up what God has been teaching me this year- He cares for each of us as individuals. Just because your life looks different it doesn’t mean God has forgotten about you!
If you’re like me and you struggle with feeling unloved, let God’s Word speak truth into your life. I encourage you to go to II Kings 8 and read this story for yourself. Remind yourself that…
You are loved.
You are blessed.
You are cared for.
This week I’m thankful for the truths found in Scripture. We can lie to ourselves, but God never lies to us. He loves us more than we can ever understand or imagine. And we can rest in that. Together, let’s celebrate every SINGLE blessing!