BLESSED. This word has gotten very popular of late. It shows up on social media, coffee mugs, wall hangings, and T-shirts. It features in our comments- “You’re so blessed.” “We were so blessed in 2019.” “God has given you a beautiful family. You’re so blessed.” “My husband and kids just made me breakfast in bed.” #Blessed
You get the idea…
My life doesn’t look like most other women’s. I don’t have a husband, kids, or many of the other trappings of “adult life.” I barely even have furniture.
It’s easy to look at my life and wonder “Where’s my blessing?”
No one ever says you’re blessed when you’re single and childless. But… does that mean it’s not true?
Does my #BLESSED life have to look like everyone else’s?
Blessings in Disguise
Let’s face it: Being single is HARD. There’s no sugar-coating it. Every time I check the box marked “single” on another form I feel my stomach tighten just a little.
I’ve said no to events because I didn’t have a date.
I’ve sat by myself in restaurants, in church, and at movies.
I’ve watched women’s eyes dart around frantically while they search for a conversation topic after finding out I’m single and don’t have kids.
I’ve scraped snow and ice off my car in a skirt at 6:30 in the morning.
These things are difficult, but that doesn’t mean they can’t be blessings.
Blessed by Truth
“Give thanks in everything for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” I Thessalonians 5:18
The hard truth is that being single is God’s will for my life. And the beautiful truth is if it’s His will for my life, then it’s good.
This truth is not based on how many well-meaning old ladies pat my hand and tell me the right one is out there. This truth is not based on suggestions that I try online dating again. Instead, it’s based on the Word of God. God has not forsaken me or forgotten about me. He is working out His purpose for me.
And that means I am just as #BLESSED as the happily married woman with 2.5 kids.
“Those who know your name trust in You, for You, Lord, have never forsaken those who seek you.” Psalm 9:10
Every SINGLE Blessing
My life doesn’t look like most thirty-seven year old’s, but that’s ok.
At least, I really, really want it to be ok. I want to celebrate the life that God has given me and walk confidently in the knowledge that this is what He has planned.
“The heart of a man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” Proverbs 16:9
God’s plan is far better than anything I could come up with for myself.
The purpose of this blog is not to whine about being single. It’s not about men-bashing or providing my top tips for dating (really can’t help you there).
Instead, my hope for this blog is that it connects and encourages other women- Single women, certainly, but also any woman who finds that she is has been called to a life that may not resemble her own first choice.
Women who find themselves walking alone in a world of couples and families.
Women who are facing the reality that singleness may not be a season, but a lifetime commitment.
Women struggling with the constant comparison game.
Women who need to know that they are deeply loved by the God who plans out every step of their lives.
Together, let’s celebrate every SINGLE blessing!